How do I tell a girl I like her over text?

Telling someone that you like them or that you have a crush on them can be terrifying, especially if it is done in person. For this reason, a lot of people opt to tell their crush that they like them over text.

This can indeed be scary for a variety of reasons, the most significant of which is the fear of rejection. When you tell someone you like them over text, you save yourself from some embarrassment, awkward situations and rejection face-to-face.

However, the one issue that does come with telling someone you like them over text is that texting is not always clear and can lead to some confusion. Because of this, it is important that you formulate your text in a way that limits confusion and makes it clear that you are not being sarcastic. So how do you tell a girl you like her over text or make her understand indirectly that you would like to go out with her?

Here are 10 powerful ways to tell a girl you like her over text, whether it's on WhatsApp, Facebook, Messenger, Instagram or Snapchat:

1. Start with Casual Conversation

Before you jump right into telling a woman you like her, first start by having a casual and friendly conversation. This way, you don't catch the girl you like off guard with a random and shocking text. Instead, you get the ball rolling through subtle and everyday conversation. Ask questions like how she is doing, how has her day been, and other things that show her that you care. Then, you can move onto tip #2.

2. Drop Some Subtle Hints

Before blurting out that you like her, it would be smart to drop some little hints or even flirt a little bit. Skipping this step and jumping to telling her that you like her can be overwhelming for both her and you, so start with some compliments. You can say something nice about how she looked that day or something along those lines to feel out what she is feeling. If she flirts back, you are on the right track!

3. Write Out what you Want to Say

Before sending your message, make sure you write it out and are satisfied with it first. It is important spending time writing these few words. You can either keep it sweet and simple or drag it out a little bit longer, though it is suggested that you keep it short and sweet so that she is clear on what you are trying to say. You can simply tell her that you like her, or you can be bold and ask her on a date. Whatever you say, don't make it too dramatic and make it clear that you are being serious.

4. Don't Use Abbreviations but Clear Words

A lot of texting is made up of abbreviations such as “u” for ‘You” and “Ily’ or "I<3U" for “I love you” and so on and so forth. There are so many abbreviations in texts that are used every single day, but in a message as important as this one, you want to be as clear and precise as possible, so avoid these abbreviations at all costs. This is because while these abbreviations may seem clear to you, they may not be clear to the woman you are trying to attract.

5. Make Sure the Other Person is Focused

Before dropping the bomb on her, make sure that she is engaged in the conversation and is not preoccupied with something else. For example, don't just send the text in the middle of the day while she is at practice. Instead, follow the advice stated in number one, start a conversation first, and make sure that she is interested in talking to you so that you know you have her attention.

6. Don't Confess Your Love Dramatically

With this text, you are not confessing to them that they are the love of your life. Instead, you are trying to show them that you like them and are interested in getting to know them on a deeper level. Because of this, don't come out and say that they are your soulmate and you hear that little song in your heart because that might scare them away. Keep it sweet and innocent.

7. Don't Double Text

If they do not reply right away, it is suggested that you do not double text meaning don't text them again to get their attention. They are likely trying to process the information, so respect that they need that time. Instead of double texting, just be patient. Plus, double texting can often come off as either aggressive or desperate, neither of which are desirable.

8. Keep it Sweet and Simple

As stated earlier, there is no need to write out an entire love letter or a romantic confession of your love. Instead, a girl will appreciate a short and simple text so that they are sure that you are not joking. Tell them that you like them, compliment them, make them smile and laugh, and ask them if they would like to go out with you sometime. It is as easy as that!

9. Realize there is Nothing to Lose

While telling someone you like that you like them can be terrifying and intimidating, it is an important thing to do so that you have no regrets later. The biggest thing you have to lose is you may get rejected, but that simply means that that wasn't the right girl for you. Be brave, be bold, and tell her how you feel. If you don't, you will never know if she feels the same way or not. Who knows, she could have been your girlfriend or yours forever, but you never told her how you felt. Don't be that person, go for it!

10. Send the Message and Wait (even if it is nerve-wracking)

The last thing you can do after writing out the message and dropping all the hints is to send the message. Waiting for a response will be the most stressful few moments, but you will get a response. Whether it is a yes or a no, at least you have an answer and were brave enough to do it in the first place. There are plenty of girls out there, and all that means is that she was not to perfect girl for you.

Example Messages to Tell a Girl You Like Her

If you need further assistance in typing out and sending a message to that special girl, here are some examples of texts you can send.

“I know that we are just friends, but I was hoping that I could get to know you better. Would you like to go on a date with me?”

“I know that we just met, but I was wondering if you would go on a date with me?”

“We have been friends for a while, but I was wondering if we could maybe be more than that?”

“I think you are beautifully amazing. Would you like to go on a date with me sometime?”

From Texts to Love Stories

"I was so afraid to tell my crush that I liked her, but my boys made me. I sat down one day, typed and retyped the message until I thought I had it perfect, then I sent it over WhatsApp. That two minutes was the longest two minutes of my life, but it was so worth it because the two years I have been married to that same girl made up for those two stressful minutes." -Jake, 26

“My text story did not necessarily have a happy ending at the moment, but it became a happy ending eventually. I had this big crush on a girl at my high school, so I got her number and told her. Sadly, I think I came on too strong and she wasn't interested in a relationship with me, but it was great because I met my soulmate just the next week. I never would have met her if it weren't for that little fear of rejection.” -Kente, 29

"After my friends kept bothering me over and over again to tell this cute girl I had met that I wanted to take her on a first date, they ended texting off of my phone for me. I was mad at first, but after she replied, I quickly realized that I should have done it myself because it was the best thing I, or my friends, ever did. Now, Kelsey and I are celebrating six months together, and I am looking forward to live forever with her." -David, 33

Be bold and you will know if you are going to be just friends or start a relationship

In the end, we all know how terrifying it is to tell someone that you like them for the first time. There are so many possibilities: they could ghost you, they could reject you, or they could like you too. While this is a scary feat to battle and do, it is the only way to get an answer and find out how they feel about you. To know if that woman is just interested in friendship or if she reciprocate your feelings.

If you don't take that step and tell that woman you are interested in her, you may live with that regret forever. Wouldn't it feel so much better to get that off of your chest and get an answer rather than never knowing? I think so!

Follow the tips and tricks above, craft that perfect text message, and go for it!

Emilio Costa

Relationship Expert

I have been helping men better understand women's psychology for 15 years to be more successful in dating and happier in love.

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